Understanding XX

I tried to understand the psyche of the all so endearing XX being. But like all XY I have failed miserably. For those who are unaware of what these letters mean, please Google it. OK, back to my blog, I met a lot of women in all shapes and sizes and I also have a lot of good friends of this species, no matter how many times I try to comprehend what they want, I’m left baffled each time.

I just met a good friend of mine (K) and she is just a normal sweet girl with a few expectations, most very reasonable. She is one of the few women I’ve met, wait let me correct myself, she is the only girl I’ve met who is honest enough to say exactly just how she feels, something I really admire in any woman.

She thinks she expects too much from a guy or feels that she is being too rigid and I would agree with her to some extent, as most of her expectations are logical and some are just too rigid and need to be reconsidered.

My only recommendation is that she should reassess her qualifiers and maybe she will have a wider option. There is no guy in the universe that is perfect in every way. Mr Perfect doesn’t exist, and this is a FACT, I know this because even I have flaws, now getting back to my observations of the fairer sex.

Based on the number of interactions I have had with women and the innumerable conversations I have been part of, I have concluded that the reason why most women prefer bad guys is because they like challenges. I am generalizing here when I say women like men who they can mold and groom into a way they best see fit. They probably like the adrenalin rush when they finally tame that Neanderthal beast of a boyfriend.

Please note, I have used words like ‘most women’, ‘usually’, ‘probably’ so IF you are a girl don’t get into a hissy fit and say I’m biased and IF you are a guy, I really don’t care how you feel or what you think, just read on and hopefully you will understand women a little better.

Some simple rules every guy should know about a girl. 

Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they feel they are right and you need to shut up.

Nothing: This means "something" and you should be on your toes. "Nothing" means you better find out what has pissed her off before it’s too late.

I’m OK: This means she is not OK and she needs to be emotionally supported. Now be aware, don’t try and push or force your support because this will make her even more upset than she really is. It’s a fine line knowing when to back off and when to keep pushing her to open up.

When a woman says:

"I'm not ready for a relationship..." OR "I think we should just be friends..."

What she really means is:

"You seem more like a brother or a 'nice guy' to me, and you're just not my type. There are no feelings of attraction. I don't feel any spark of chemistry, mostly because you don't seem all that exciting and I’m not into you”

Now don’t feel bad, it’s a fact just suck it up and move on. IF a woman is into you she will let you know.

So even if you are already aware of all these facts, it doesn’t give you a big advantage when dealing with the fairer sex. Man has been able to unscramble the DNA sequence, invent Nano technology, and has recently even found the “God particle” Higgs boson, however he will never be able to crack the mind of a woman.

I read this Joke sometime last month and it really drives home the point I have been trying to make.

A man walking along a California beach was deep in prayer when all of a sudden he said aloud, "Lord grant me one wish". The sky clouded and a booming voice said, "Because you have tried to be faithful I will grant you one wish." The man said, "Build a bridge to Hawaii so I can drive over anytime I want to." 

The Lord answered, "Your request is very materialistic. Think of the logistics of that kind of undertaking. The supports required to reach the bottom of the Pacific! The concrete and steel it would take. I can do it, but it is hard for me to justify your desire for worldly things. Take a little more time to think of another wish, a wish you think would honor and glorify me". 

The man thought for a long time and finally said, "Lord, I wish that I could understand women. I want to know what they feel inside, what they are thinking when they give me the silent treatment, why they cry, what they mean when they say 'nothing', and how I can make a woman truly happy?" 

After a few minutes God said, "How many lanes did you want on that bridge?"

What I also learned is that you need to wait for the right person to come along and the day you meet that person you will just know it. Your Soulmate is just around the corner. SoulMate